Different people want different experiences when they buy from you or join your community.
Some want it fast, some want it cheap, some want the red carpet rolled out, some want to lurk, some want to feel seen, some want to take their time, some want to be included and some don’t want it at all.
None of these is right and none are wrong. That’s the point, it’s depends on the person. Your job is to work out what they want and how they want it.